How to Harness Sexual Energy For Spiritual Growth & Healing
Consciousness, Sexuality and Relationships. BY Johanna Lyman. I recently went to the Museum of Sex in NYC and saw an exhibit about the sex life of animals. This video is from the Conscious Sexuality and Relationship Online Conference with Marc David and Emily Rosen, founders of The Institute for Conscious. Prior to entering into a sexual relationship, have a conscious dialogue around basics such as sexually transmitted diseases, what type of birth control you'll use, .
Then they can plan erotic interludes to leisurely enjoy each other during a sexual energy exchange and the pleasures their bodies have to offer. To enhance foreplay, try the next exercise to awaken your senses and let go to pleasure.
Surrender to Your Senses Set aside uninterrupted time to playfully experiment. Begin to relax by breathing deep and slow. We habitually breathe shallowly to temper sexual and other feelings.
I want you to sense, not think, to be fully in your body. Start with the face, neck, chest, breasts, and the heart area, gradually making your way down to the genitals. Repeat delicate, circular motions over these areas. They respond to a light touch. Revel in the sensations. Select a few foods, herbs, or spices that have zing.
Arrange them on a plate. My favorites are papaya, peppermint, and honey. To heighten your sense of taste, I suggest wearing an eye mask or a loose blindfold, perhaps made from a silk scarf. Then, with eyes covered, have your partner offer you each selection one by one.
The tongue is a sensual miracle of sensations. Let the pleasure of taste spread throughout your body. Allow it to arouse every pore. It is an intimate and important part of sexual energy, one that can turn you off or on. Let a blindfold accentuate your exploration of this sense. One patient, a full-time mom, gets a sensual lift from a few whiffs of lavender or gardenia oil during the day, and she keeps them handy in her desk and car. Test out various scents. See how your body responds to the aromas of different herbs, oils, or perfumes.
Use them as a sensual refresher. Play with movement and rocking. Experiment with moving your bodies together to build sexual energy. Rocking your bodies while holding each other can be extremely sensual.
Also, when you first see each other after being apart, a long, silent embrace or hug combined with rocking is arousing. Dancing or spontaneous free-form movements are beautiful too. Tune in to nature. Thunderstorms, mist, rainbows, wind in the woods—enjoy whatever moods of nature excite you.
Let them arouse your body. Be aware of colors, textures, sounds. Sensuality can be transmitted from nature to you, a spontaneous osmosis if you allow it to happen. Exploring each other is never just a one-time event. Experiment with what gives you both goose bumps, tingles, or surges of warmth. Notice how your body feels, all of it. This lets you experience more pleasure and intimacy. Sexual energy gets transmitted to your partner, affecting his or her well-being.
Your energy fields overlap, conveying both joy and despair even during brief hookups. From that perspective, there is no such thing as casual sex.
Conscious Sexuality for beginners: Consent and Boundaries
I want you to be. During orgasm ordinary boundaries blur. In the best of situations, orgasm is an exchange of energy that blesses both partners.
Tantra is a potent Hindu system that teaches the art of erotic love by combining sex and spirit. Westerners often see sex as linear, the goal being orgasm, but tantra views sexual love as a sacrament and an energy exchange between two people.
Using specific positions, you move erotic energy upward from the genitals to nourish and purify your whole being. Energy is emitted through the eyes: Eye contact is a way to stay connected to your partner. Also during orgasm, when energy rises, you may liberate uncomfortable emotions.
Mindful Sex Practices for Increasing Pleasure and Connection
Have I done something wrong? To experience how knowing about sexual energy can improve your sex life, try the following exercise alone or with a partner. See if the following fears are stopping you. Common Fears of Letting Go 1. Fear of losing control.
Fear of taking too long to have an orgasm. Fear of speaking your needs. Fear of pain, abandonment, or emotional harm. Fear of losing yourself in a lover. Fear of getting obsessed or overly attached to a lover. To surrender these fears, envision a new paradigm of sexual energy success. Dispense with old ideas and embrace truer ones. The first switch is to permanently retire the notion that good sex is equated only with performance.
This leads to performance anxiety, which only prevents good sex and orgasms. Or Steve Jobs when he was inventing the iPad? I kinda doubt it. The same goes for sex. Attention should be focused on giving and receiving pleasure, not on expectations of erections and orgasms. I urge couples to be more candid, more innovative, more willing to question and blast apart notions that are anti-passion and anti-love.
Emotional wounds can also stop you from letting go. Lovemaking may trigger old hurts, fear of abandonment, or trauma.
When this happens to my patients, their first instinct is often to shut down. One of my patients who struggled with low self-esteem spent a decade in an abusive marriage. No wonder she suffered from chronic pelvic pain. She loved her husband, but he was hurting her with his abusive treatment and definitely not treasuring her the way she deserved to be treasured.
My beaten-down patient had reached that point of surrender. Finally she was ready to let go. During our therapy, she gained the courage to leave the marriage and eventually her pelvic pain disappeared.
Techniques that benefited my patient and will help others heal trauma include psychotherapy, bodywork—such as energy healing and massage—and spiritual work focusing on self-compassion and the complicated subject of forgiveness.
If you have a history of trauma that prevents you from letting go, I recommend reaching out to a therapist or guide to help you release it. As healing occurs—and it will—letting go during lovemaking will feel safer and the sexual energy will become more pleasurable. You may resist the merging that happens during orgasm because it makes you feel invisible or consumed.
Paradoxically, you must be confident in who you are in order to enjoy such profound letting go. Otherwise the ecstatic dissolution of the ego during lovemaking may seem threatening. One college student told me about her conflicted emotions: Since Adam and Eve, erotic pleasure has made even the most sensible people forsake their priorities. A related aspect is when one member of a couple too greatly subordinates his or her identity while caring for a spouse or children. Maybe that means returning to school, doing charity work, or insisting on private time to meditate and pursue spirituality.
Then it will be safer to enjoy the freedom of surrendering, both during sexual energy exchanges and in your relationship Exercise: Orgasmic Meditation Relax and unwind. Set aside some time to be sensual. Turn off the phone. Put a Do Not Disturb sign on your door. To unwind, take a few deep breaths. Feel your belly rise with each in-breath, become softer with each out-breath. Focus on the sensuality of your body. Indulge in a sexy thought.
Feel the orgasm rise, then peak, then explode. Let yourself melt into it. Surrender to the pleasure. A wonderful way to feel sexual energy move is to meditate immediately after an orgasm.
A minute or so following climax, sit in an upright position. Inhale and exhale slowly. Focus lightly on the lingering bliss of orgasm. Let it spread throughout your body. Sexual energy moves through you naturally. Surrender to the sensations as they heighten. Savor the warmth, tingles, or rush. Eyes still closed, you may slip into a state of intuitive awareness.
You may see colors, vibrate from head to toe, or even feel God. Spontaneous intuitions about people, work, or health may flash through. Later, be sure to write these down and act on them.
There is no time limit for this meditation. Continue as long as you like. Let the orgasmic energy transport you to higher states of consciousnessvisions, and pleasure. Liberate Your Love Bonding with a partner is a natural part of getting to know someone and of falling in love.
True intimacy is always a balance between bonding and letting go so the relationship can breathe. Take the following quiz to determine your bonding patterns. Do you cling to your partner?
Do you want to possess him or her? Are you often afraid of being abandoned or betrayed? Do you constantly think about the person? Do you start obsessing about a partner after you have sex?
Experience is not required. I first came across ISTA totally by chance; I was travelling with my beloved in Guatemala and a poster caught my attention. Probably because it had the word sex in it, and because it looked attractive and exotic. David and I signed up as a present to our love, not knowing what the week would be about.
The answer is simple; a lot of the transformational work that is done during that week needs to be in context. Out of context, it sounds nuts. I have done 2 Level 1s; once as a participant, and another time as an assistant, and I can guarantee that my learning and journey was unique each time. However, I understand that your mind wants something more palpable, so here goes.
Boundaries — Do you ever feel like you should have said no, but ended up saying yes? Tools — Even if you are content and emotionally switched on, there is space to become happier, more connected to your feelings, desires, fears, dreams. Exploring anger was one of the more difficult challenges for me, precisely because I am pretty joyful.
In a nutshell, the tools involve using your voice and body movements to let energy move through you. This is the next level and has much more impact. The thing is not the thing — Whenever you feel angry that someone arrived late, frustrated about a decision made at work… you are becoming a victim of that thing or story.
You might not be able to change how late that person is, but you can change how it affects you. ISTA L1 teaches you how to move into your power and break this cycle of victimhood. It takes practice post-training, but you are given tools. Honesty — We are brought up to be polite, and this can get in the way of honesty.
Since our first ISTA L1, my beloved and I have had some seriously deep and painful conversations, which have brought us to beautiful places. You can be honest about how it makes you feel, instead of blaming them for it. The key is to be clear that it is not a competition, it is not an attack. You also have to accept that some people are still stuck in fight or flight mode, so you might not have such a successful honest conversation.
Guess what, you are a whole human being, you have yourself. You are your own mother, your father, you design your story from now on. Everyone has traumas to different levels and degreesand it can feel like you are messed up for good, but you are not.
More and more research is going into neuroplasticity, so we have the ability to rewire through a change in habits, and like William Ernest Henley says in his poem Invictus, you are the master of your own fate, you are the captain of your soul. Why is it so expensive? ISTA might sound alien to you, but it is made up of human beings who pay bills. So, take the plunge, and you will love me and yourself for it! ISTA is part of a global transformational movement where human consciousness is being opened to its source as love and harmoniously integrating with other sentient kingdoms and dimensions.
In particular ISTA works with spirituality and sexuality as two expressions of the life force. Our vision is a world where humans have a peaceful, delightful, shameless, fearless and loving relationship with their own bodies, sexuality, emotions, hearts, minds and spirit.
ISTA is a modern synthesis of: ISTA collaborates with many groups, organizations, and communities in various locations around the world. We implement our vision by generating a living, loving culture amongst ourselves, then propagating this culture and educating others through conferences, trainings and other events around the globe. Most organizations have a mission statement, a business plan with clear goals, budgets and strategies to achieve them.
This will not work with the type of organism ISTA is — or not by itself. To be truly transformative we harmonize Awareness on what we are desiring to achieve, with Presence of who we are. If we shift it to the beginning we get Heart. Once we are anchored in the heart then we can gently focus outward again and the result is HeartH.
ISTA is a Hearth where the fire of spirit has been lit.