[ENTJ] INTJ male, ENTJ female. How can he be a leader?
Hi I'm an INTJ man and my close female friend is an ENTJ, Though I'm . I am a life/motivational coach focused on career and networking with a .. I am an ENTJ woman that just got out of a relationship with an INTJ male. INTJ/ ENTJ Relationship Dynamics. Relationship? the least represented types among females, so the likelihood of this pairing occurring between genders is the private refuge of the ENTJ male: the place where all those things he No one is more apt to the advice of his worldly ENTJ friend than the INTJ, but he rarely if. Let's look at some of the reasons why an INTJ ENTJ relationship could be one of the most It seems to me that in this personality pairing we have just the right amount of similarity, Indeed, relationship experts point to pairings like this for exactly this reason. . So, I am an ENTJ female in a relationship with an INTJ Male.
I would feel so starved and lonely being connected to someone with no intuition. You're better than that. Biblical male headship is nothing about "control" or domination or any such thing. Its about a role that the man was designed for and a role that the woman was designed for, regardless of personality.
Christian ENTJs have no problem with this, and yes even this woman has confirmed her belief several times about her desire to have a man who can be her leader.
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Again, you're hung up on a stereotype. Biblical headship is nothing like the stereotype. Its not "I'm better than you". Men and women are equal in value but have different roles, and that's ok.
The cultural attempt to erase the gender roles has contributed to much of the disaster that is modern society. Why do I even have to explain this? I gave it as a premise. I'm not trying to shoe-horn this woman into following along with the idea of gender roles.INTJ Lair // Advice to Those Dating INTJs
She already wants that role. She wants a man who is capable of leading her in the ways of the Lord, and who's beliefs line up with hers. You see, there is no conflict here.
Look at it this way: God is the head of both me, and her. We both submit willingly to his authority and systems.
So she wants a man who lines up with biblical beliefs and as a logical necessity, that means her husband's beliefs will line up with her beliefs as well. She wants someone who she can come home to and seek comfort with. I know you ENTJs probably like to put on an image like you're machines which never have needs, but we're all human beings, and we all have soft vulnerable sides to us which seek comfort in another.
So lets lose the "gender roles have no place" attitude please and focus on the context of the situation. Nobody's asking you to agree. I'm trying to get a handle on the dynamic of these two types in a relationship that has a premise where these gender roles do exist and are accepted by both. This should clear up any confusion as to what I'm talking about This is a link to a marriage seminar which was sent to me by the ENTJ woman in question.
Yes, she actually sent this to me, so there's no doubt ok, that we're talking about someone who has a very solid picture of what marriage is supposed to be like.
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I watched the entire seminar and was very impressed. I suspect the speaker is an ESFP, which is super-fun to watch. It also happens to contain the second-best speech on sex that I've ever heard.
If it's public face you're worried about, come into a compromise when in public; Come on. And book a table on Valentine's Day. Game plans only work when you're playing chess INTJs notoriously approach dating the way they approach most situations - with a game plan.
Rather than falling head over heels for the nearest warm body, we construct a well-defined image of our ideal partner, break the dating process down into a series of actionable milestones, then proceed to execute the plan with laser-sharp focus. Strategy in place, we're ready to woo. Shockingly, other people may not fall in line with this system.
Partners and dates want to know they are attractive, respected and loved for who they are without all the wrangling, controlling and mind games. Painful as it is, you've got to play with the other person, not manipulate them like pawns on a chessboard. A date is not an interview INTJs famously require a mate of the mind - someone clever, preferably genius, and independent enough to stand up to the INTJ's formidable intellect. Most INTJs will figure out very quickly whether someone makes the grade.
If not, the INTJ will waste no time on further courtship.
We are through with the interloper. We will not look back. To make a fair assessment, an INTJ typically will bombard their date with the "big" questions.
And by big, I mean the sort of complex, probing, no-stone-left-unturned questions you get asked at an interview. We think we are nailing down our date's personality and suitability this way. In fact, we're killing the buzz 90 percent of the time. Ask your date what kind of music they like movies, books, food. Everyone has an opinion on these subjects. Your date won't feel stressed talking about their favorite meal.
If your date is a poor conversationalist or displays terribly bad taste, cut your losses. But if the conversation naturally veers off at a tangent and throws up all sorts of delicious morsels, then you've probably struck gold. And you didn't even ask your date about their life goals.
Sometimes, you've just got to go for it INTJ's score high on the Judging scale, which means they like to have things decided. However, this only occurs when we've made up our minds. Until then, we are flexible and open to new information.
This is a problem, because we have a tendency to spend a ridiculous amount of time studying the ins and outs of relationships - knotty issues like our feelings, whether the flames of passion are burning, and the significance of it all. Intimacy can burn rather slowly until we've sorted everything out.
By then, the object of our affection will have lost interest. So hurry it up already. In a cautious world, seizing the moment is undeniably romantic and sexy. No one likes haughty If you want to destroy romance, be sure to think of yourself as smarter, more intuitive, more conscientious, more rational and more important than your date.
Cross examine them and challenge their assumptions. Always strive to be right, even if it crushes your significant other. Don't worry about the personal cost of your attitude, and never give anyone a break.
Sometimes you have to be selectively blind INTJs are known for plain-speaking. We say what's on our minds. We are blunt and unrelenting critics. We tell our partners where they've gone wrong and we fix false assumptions. Who cares about the touchy-feely stuff? We like the truth.